Talking to Kids About Selling the Family Home During Divorce
Selling the family home during divorce comes with logistical challenges, but it’s also important to support your children emotionally. The Government of Ontario offers practical guidance on how to talk to kids about separation itself, which can complement the steps outlined in this article.
Talk to Them Early and Honestly
Let your kids know about the sale before the house hits the market. When possible, speak to them together. A shared message helps them feel stable. If that’s not realistic, agree in advance on what you’ll say.
Say things simply:
- “We’ve decided to live in different homes.”
- “We’ll be selling this house, but you’ll have a place that feels right.”
Avoid promises you’re unsure about, like staying in the same school. Be open to their questions.
Acknowledge Their Feelings
Selling the family home during divorce may make kids feel confused, angry, or sad. Let them know their feelings are okay, even if they don’t talk about them right away.
You can say:
- “It’s okay to feel upset.”
- “You can come to me with questions.”
This reassurance applies to teens, too even if they seem indifferent.
Give Them Small Choices
When you’re talking to kids about selling the family home, giving them a few decisions can help them feel more in control. For example:
- Pick a colour for a staged room
- Pack a “first box” for the new home
- Choose a favourite nearby park
These small actions help them feel included in the process.
Emphasize What Will Stay the Same
Children want to know what they can count on. Be specific about what won’t change:
- Who they’ll live with, and on which days
- Whether their school will stay the same
- What weekly routines will still happen
Even if you don’t have all the answers yet, let them know they’ll be kept informed.
Work With a Realtor Who Understands Families
At the Keith and Françoise Real Estate Team, we understand the challenges of selling a home during divorce. We help parents plan around their child’s schedule and comfort.
We book showings that respect nap times and school pickup. We also stage with care, removing personal items while keeping your child’s space respectful and calm.
If you’re selling your home during divorce in Ontario, you don’t have to do it alone.
FAQs: Selling the Family Home with Kids
Frequently Asked Questions
Should we tell our kids before listing the home?
Yes. Don’t let them hear about it from a sign. A short, calm conversation shows respect.
What if my child refuses to leave during a showing?
Pack a small bag with snacks or a toy. Pick one familiar outing spot like a park or library to help it feel normal.
Do we need to remove their personal items?
Yes, but involve them. Pack things together and explain that these will be in the new home. That helps it feel like a move, not a loss.
Your Next Step
Selling your home during divorce affects your entire family. With a clear plan and the right team, you can make the move less disruptive for your children.
📩 Contact us to talk through your next move.
📚 Or read our full Divorce Real Estate Guide for more practical advice based on real experience in Ontario.
